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How to build unshakeable self esteem
By Jena Griffiths | November 11, 2009
Self esteem is the back bone of all success in life.
But it can’t be bought – for love or money.
It has to be earned.
How?
Not by trying to please others
but by being true to yourself and your word.
Think of your inner child as a real child.
Are you keeping your promises to this unique being?
Does it find in you a trustworthy friend?
Are you taking care of your own essential needs?
Are you helping yourself be all you can be?
Often we over-promise to others as well as ourselves
This is like a short term sugar fix.
We boost our self esteem temporarily.
Then when we don’t keep our promise
we fall into a deep dark pit.
The trick is to stop promising.
Wean yourself off the sweet fake currency of
over-promising.
Here’s Jack Canfield’s method :
Keep a note book with you at all times
and each time you make a promise
to others or yourself write it down
in this book with the date you plan to deliver.
This Saturday in Zürich I’m offering a mini workshop
on how to build unshakeable self esteem.
We’ll explore how this theme shows up in your hands
and what to do to build a solid platform of positive self regard.
If you’re in the area, you’re invited to come join us for a fun, highly informative morning.
Find out more here:
http://handreadingtoday.com/zurich.html
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Topics: Hand Analysis/Palm Reading, Relationships, Swiss news | 55 Comments »
November 12th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
Thinking of your inner child is definitely necessary to building unshakable self-esteem. That is where most long-lasting problems start, especially since you are probably holding onto something from that time period.
November 14th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Jack Canfield is great and his techniques have worked for so many. I like to combine his stuff with that of Tony Robbins.
November 17th, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Cheers you positive outlook real helps me to build sand castles by the sea…. love and peace to you… m dears
November 18th, 2009 at 5:06 am
Know that you have confidence inside you, Self-esteem cannot be borrowed from others, you just have to believe in your self and be a generator of moral for others.
November 22nd, 2009 at 12:18 pm
nice said
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:05 am
WOW! Very nice post i totally enjoy the content of this post and i will definitely share this post to my friends and students.
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:05 am
hi.Jena Griffiths u r right Self esteem is a must to become successful in life .I think most of ur views are correct.Keeping a notebook and remembering promises is the best.
Tnx
November 23rd, 2009 at 2:06 pm
You just have to believe in yourself and be a generator of moral for others.
November 23rd, 2009 at 8:24 pm
I rarely post, but I wanted to say thanks for sharing this information.
November 24th, 2009 at 2:00 am
Jena Griffiths,
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November 25th, 2009 at 5:25 am
Know that you have confidence inside you, Self-esteem cannot be borrowed from others, you just have to believe in your self and be a generator of moral for others.
November 25th, 2009 at 11:36 am
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November 25th, 2009 at 11:36 am
Hello!
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November 26th, 2009 at 5:38 am
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November 28th, 2009 at 4:00 am
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November 28th, 2009 at 4:42 am
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December 10th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
Over promise is a concept that I had never heard before about self-esteem, but it makes sense. Promising things sometimes is a huge energy expenditure for ourselves and others.
December 11th, 2009 at 4:00 am
Nice post, thanks for sharing. Best of luck for you.
December 13th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
great post and very usfull, self esteem can easy be broken and take time to build backup.
December 14th, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Hi, i really liked this post, but i have one thought wich I would like to ask You – what are the tips for people who had started building their self esteem and fell down. For example they went back on promise they had given? I’m just wondering if there are some 2,3,4… attempt’s tips?
December 14th, 2009 at 4:20 pm
Cheers you positive outlook real helps me to build sand castles by the sea
December 15th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
self-esteem will come from inside, when you will come to know that you are capable to do anything that is gonna come to your way, just have faith and everything will be taken care off.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Appreciate your objective analysis on this topic. Keep up the good work!
December 18th, 2009 at 3:53 am
it sounds great.
December 18th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
Thank you, Jena! Your words are incredible. I guess you gave me a couple of good things to think about to change my life.
December 19th, 2009 at 12:13 pm
so many tips for those who hesitate to come out of the inferiority complex.thanks…!
December 20th, 2009 at 10:33 am
Self esteem can’t be bought but can be learn. Self esteem for me is being comfortable with who you are, what you say, and way you are doing. Believing that you can surpass anything, being strong in the midst of triumphs, and have the courage to tell the world that you can’t handle everything in your own hands.
December 22nd, 2009 at 12:52 pm
This is gonna definitely help me to become a person lot better from now.
December 22nd, 2009 at 4:18 pm
The tips are very valuable to us and awaiting of such post in future as well.
December 23rd, 2009 at 1:42 pm
building unshakable self esteem helps in facing critical situations in life…
December 26th, 2009 at 8:44 am
Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? Why do you feel ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from getting rid of acne, your regretting attitude, being over-weight or nagging friends at school. You need to identify reasons that make you feel unworthy, ashamed and inferior. Just pen them down and name them. You can also tear these written pieces to start feeling positive on those points.
December 26th, 2009 at 9:48 am
Even the most confident person has certain insecurities. Lifes circumstances make us realize that we lack something. Accept the reality as there are several bumps down the life’s road.
December 26th, 2009 at 10:03 am
Whether it is related to your work, school or socializing skills, be conscious not to move around with a mindset that others are better or more qualified than you. To a certain degree, it is good to walk around with a feeling of superiority. However, do not take this attitude too far or else you would be perceived as a jerk.
December 29th, 2009 at 2:46 am
I’ve found that just doing one thing a day that helps me feel better about myself goes a long way toward improving my self-esteem.
January 2nd, 2010 at 11:02 am
Lack of action is always a symptom of other imbalances in your life”, hits the nail on the head as to why your program can be a success.
January 2nd, 2010 at 11:02 am
You present some extraordinary ideas and I enjoyed and learned much. Your “8 pillars of greatness” is concise and well written . . .and inspires one to take “action” to find and correct their “imbalances”.
January 8th, 2010 at 10:02 am
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands
January 8th, 2010 at 10:03 am
When you engage in systematic, purposeful action, using and stretching your abilities to the maximum, you cannot help but feel positive and confident about yourself
January 8th, 2010 at 10:03 am
Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young
January 8th, 2010 at 10:04 am
The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started.
January 8th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Perfection does not exist – you can always do better and you can always grow.
January 8th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Keep the faith and just keep moving forward. Always remember, the more action you take, the more money you will make. The money will come, it’s almost impossible for it not to. You just have to keep working hard…
January 9th, 2010 at 4:51 am
an inspirational blog for today’s younger generation.if we are true to our-self,then, we can conquer the entire world.
January 11th, 2010 at 4:40 am
I like this article, this is what I needed, thank you !
January 15th, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Thanks for sharing… …Nice blog folks
January 16th, 2010 at 7:46 am
Self confident is important for all aspects of life. I agree with you that we don’t need to over promise to our self and to others. Just be real, be yourself, and love yourself.
January 22nd, 2010 at 6:48 am
Yeh This is really true and this post is great. Thanks for sharing keep updating………..
January 25th, 2010 at 10:23 am
This could be anything from getting rid of acne, your regretting attitude, being over-weight or nagging friends at school. You need to identify reasons that make you feel unworthy, ashamed and inferior. Just pen them down and name them.
March 18th, 2010 at 4:21 pm
To begin with we really should stop lying to ourselves. It’s a big problem for me too. The most typical example is “I’m giving up smoking next Monday”. And repeat it to myself every week.
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