Last week I invited my ex to dinner and he arrived 40 minutes late. I was tempted to scalp him but held back. It was after all our son’s birthday.
Then he proceeded to involve me in a half hour discussion about theater tickets and who they should take with them when clearly I hadn’t been invited to go along.
I felt the tornado inside starting to twist and lift and tried to stand next to it rather than directly in its path.
These are just his and my fingerprint patterns colliding I thought. I’m not going to take the bait this time.
Huh? What do I mean?
This is a lens I find really useful. Understanding our lives and our “stuff” through fingerprint patterns.
(The LifePrints system.)
His pattern (according to his fingerprints) is power vs powerlessness in relationships
My pattern is Ms Not Enough (the voice of insufficiency).
The stage is set. I know he is in my life to trigger my stuff. And vice versa.
A good opportunity to do some advanced work on self development. Apply the AAA strategy.
Attempt an Ascended Attitude of Acceptance.
It’s a lofty ideal. The objective that what we are doing here is learning to manage our emotional bodies and look – here are the trip lines.
All you have to do is step over them.
He is who he is. An amazing person but in my life for one good reason.
He can trigger my stuff like no-one else.
I watch myself on the cliff edge. Tempted to fly into a rage. But no! I’m going to choose non reaction. Calmness instead of getting myself all wound up.
The AAA trophy floats in front of my eyes. Just above his head.
I smile but forget to breathe.
Can’t resist a dig or two to make him feel like pooh.
How about I keep my calm but wind him up a bit. Spin his top like he deserves?
It’s such fun I don’t see the invisible trip line move under the sand.
The boys want to play outside with a home built cannon.
Maybe I should come and learn how it works?
Hairspray in a long plastic tube when ignited can shoot a rotten apple halfway across the valley. And shatter the peace on all sides.
After the third explosion I explode.
The cannon cannot live here.
I’ve stepped into the tornado. Swallowed the bait hook, line and sinker.
My blood boils.
Yeah yeah sure thing. I see the look in the eyes.
They think I’ll back down when the tide passes and they’ll just do as they please anyway.
I snarl at my ex. He stares at me with big eyes. Like a deer trapped in a spotlight.
Then scuttles off with the cannon under his arm.
My son drops the final grenade at my feet:
“Thanks for ruining my birthday!”
So, do I pull the pin out or not? It’s my choice.
Ah the triple A!
I’ll have to try for that trophy again. Maybe next time.
This story is an attempt to understand how we (not others) trigger ourselves, by our interpretation of events and what this has to do with your fingerprints.
If you haven’t yet figured out your own trip lines, here’s a free report on understanding fingerprints.
You’ll receive the report via email.
If you would like help figuring this out have your fingerprints analysed professionally
or if you have already had your hands analysed and want to dive deeper join us in Earth School where we’re exploring a different life theme each month. Or get the book LifePrints.