‘”No” is a complete sentence.’ Michael Brown (the presence process)
Just off the call with Richard Unger on hand markers related to the topic “can’t say no.”
It was brilliant call.
Here’s some feedback from fellow hand analyst Christie Phillips:
“Jena…
Many thanks to you and Richard for the in depth coverage of the ‘Can’t say no’ markers, indicators, etc…
Truly insightful and rewarding…, life-giving C.P.R. for those of us with ‘Can’t say no’ tendencies!!!
I learnt so much.
Heartfelt thanks to both you and Richard!!”
Christie Phillips
If you’d like to listen to the replay of this call, here’s the link.
During the call, we discussed all the obvious markers like D forks off the heart line, grand gesture, co-dependency or contracts with loved ones and many more. We also discussed the finer nuances between some of these markers, hand shapes and of course fingerprint patterns and their combinations.
But what I love most about these calls are the surprise markers Richard throws in.
The ones you would never normally associate with the topic. Such as a strong hand with a WOW marker and a big thumb with a healthy angle of opposition (angle between thumb and index), These type of people often can’t say no for a completely different reason to most other people: because they are capable of so much more than others and know it.
We also discussed solutions for the various types.
I like this site very much. Maybe because I am interested in all the topics discussed here.And also because I get all the answers that keep on hammering my mind. I have found lot of useful information for me and about me. Thank You.
Many of us say yes because we’ve created a scenario that forces us to say yes. If I seek outside approval to feel good about myself, then when someone asks me to do something, I feel obligated to say yes in order to stay in their good graces.
Yes often this is to boost our self worth for a moment by looking good. But long term it erodes our self worth because every time you say yes you have to say no to something or someone else, usually yourself, your purpose or own needs.
What a great post! I find that I often say yes to social events. Having family come over or getting together with dinner. While I’m a social person, it’s often on the lower list of my priorities when other things are pressing and I think I do it out of guilt or a sense of duty. once I go through with the activity, I’m glad I did, so maybe that’s the other motivating factor. But it is hard to say no!
Hi Monica, yes. The more clear you are on the outcomes you want and what you have to say no to when you say yes the easier it is to decide,