Usually I’m pretty hopeless at reaching out and asking for help. Most of us are. We feel weak reaching out but actually the opposite is true. The other day I heard Brendon Burchard say that he has made it a daily practice to asking one other person for help every day. Why? It keeps him feeling humble and connected! What a beautiful idea. It reminds me of Brene Brown who says, “Vulnerability is a most accurate measurement of courage. It is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness but it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.”
Receiving is also giving. It is a way to help others feel valuable and appreciated. Vulnerability is the glue that holds people, couples, societies and even nations together. We fear revealing our of soft underbelly but this is what makes us loveable.
Or as they say in Africa, “Ubuntu”. I am because you are. You are because I am.
I like to think of it like this: we switch our own light off a moment so that others can shine.
Some personality strengths may get in the way of your asking for help.
If you have the following positive characteristics in your hands reaching out may not be one of your strongest suites.
Here are some examples:
Earth hand = sturdy and self reliant.
Clint heart line = reserved communication style + “I need my freedom”
Big Mars zone or Mars stars or Mars lines = a warrior type. Lots of courage and stamina. Fighting for the weak.
A strong stiff thumb that sticks out at right angles from your hand = I’ll do it myself.
Lots of whorls = I’m here to help, not be helped.
(Scroll down to see an example of each of these examples.)
Think of reaching out as just one more muscle (a soft tender muscle deep inside) that needs strengthening too.
Here is what I’m going to do.
Make a wish list of all the things I need help with and post it somewhere visible.
Make it a daily habit. Each day I will reach out and ask for help from at least one other person.
Yiiii…did I say that?
What’s your action plan? Share it below if you dare.
Here are some images of the hand characteristics I mentioned that might indicate you feel too strong to ask for help.
If one or more applies to you, scroll back up to the middle of the post to remind yourself what strength
might be getting in your way.
What’s your action plan to ask for help? Share it below if you dare.