Needing to belong

There’s something compelling about running with the herd, moving as one at recklessly high speeds. Horses tune into this state. It is like they can’t stop themselves. Cyclists feel it too. Wheels whirring. A sense of peace that comes only with total presence due to extremely high risk. It’s a flow state. Reacting like fish in shoal. Becoming One Mind.

Whenever I see a bike race on TV or anywhere it brings tears to my eyes. The sound of the wheels brings back memories of that cherished state. And then I know how horses feel when a cycling peloton whizzes past their paddock. They feel that irresistible pull. They will do anything to jump whatever barrier is between them and the pack that’s moving as one mind. If it isn’t possible to join the pack they’ll run along with it while still inside their paddock, as far as their confinement allows. Can’t they see they are horses not bicycles? What is this intense urge to run with the herd?

Once, in my cycling days, we had a high-jumping horse try to join our bike race. All hell broke loose. There were cyclists down, the pack split and eventually external help was needed to remove the horse from the race. When a horse tries to merge with a pack of cyclists it is just not going to work, no matter how well behaved the horse or how tolerant the cyclists. Someone is going to get hurt.

A friend of mine has a teenager daughter who urgently wants to run with the herd. She ’s very bright, talented and a free thinker and as a result she’s rather unpredictable. She just doesn’t fit in with the local gang and they won’t let her.
Why not? She doesn’t behave the way the others behave. Like the cyclists not wanting the horse to join their pack, it is not that there is anything wrong with her it is just that she’s in a different league. They don’t feel safe because there is no possibility of anticipating what she’ll do next.

So how does that help my friend’s daughter? Right now all she feels is total rejection.

One healing story to remind her about is “Ugly Ducking” fairytale. The baby swan doesn’t realise it’s a swan and tries to hang out with the ducks. As a result, it feels ugly by their standards and totally rejected by the group. It hasn’t yet realised it’s a swan trying to hang out with a bunch of ducks. As soon as it spots another swan it feels a genuine attraction. It realises there are other swans out there and it finds its “swan group” and there’s a happy ending. My friend’s daughter needs to 1. realise she’s a swan not a duck. 2. find her own ‘swan group’

Problem is, even if we know we are a swan or wild horse and there are other swans or horses out there, the urge to run with the pack at dangerous speeds still exists. And the risk of hurting yourself or others increases.

So what to do?
Examine the questions you are asking yourself.
Are you asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ Or ‘How can I make the others love me?’
Or are you asking, ‘What’s my unique gift?, ‘What do I love to do?’ and ‘Where can I meet others who are on the same journey?”
The first two questions bring only heartache whereas the third, forth and fifth turn you in a completely different direction and open the door.

Our lives are driven by the questions we ask ourselves. This applies to everything, not just niche issues. If things aren’t working out the way you want them to, re-examine the questions you are asking yourself and simply ask better questions.

Back to our wild horse joins cyclists scenario.
How do niche issues show up in your hands?
The middle zone of the ring finger gets concave. In extreme situations it looks like this Click here to read more …

Learn hands

hand analysis classesI’m offering two professional hand analysis courses in the coming months.
Brisbane, Australia last weekend in July and London, UK mid October.
These are 3 day level 1 intensive courses, and are both IIHA approved.
More information here
If you are nowhere near these venues, take the fingerprint portion online or a 12 week foundation course.
For free online classes watch this space and if you can’t wait for the new ones get lots here.

How to shine

Here’s an exercise that shifts everything.
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Imagine there is a light source inside your chest. You can turn the dimmer switch up or down.
Whenever you feel you lack something imagine that all you do is turn up the dimmer switch so that you radiate whatever it is you feel you lack.
The same applies to your purpose and lesson. If you already know your purpose, imagine turning up the dimmer switch and simply radiating that quality. Similarly, if you know what your life lesson is, simply find its opposite pole (your exalted lesson) then imagine yourself turning up your dimmer switch even more, until you are radiating out this quality too. For example, if your life lesson is about finding self worth then the advanced state is the teacher of self worth, the mentor. Simply imagine yourself radiating this quality into the world around you.
This is how you shine.

As soon as you think, “But I’m not that!” You’ve turned the dimmer switch back down. Simply turn it back up again and feel the warm glow flowing through all the cells of your being.
If you are not sure what your purpose or your lesson is you can get a work it out yourself from your fingerprints. Or simply go back to the beginning of this exercise. Choose any feeling of lack and then imagine radiating out an abundance of whatever it is you feel you lack.
Click here to read more …

Are hands predictive?

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It might surprise you to hear this but nearly every horizontal line in your hands indicates some form of negative imagination. These lines show where your limiting beliefs or ideas are; stories you are telling yourself about yourself, your circumstances or other people.

The location of each of these lines is precise, leaving valuable clues about the nature or subject under discussion.

Herein lies the real gift of hand analysis: you can clearly see the fine root structure just below the surface of your life. Lines represent thoughts you are watering frequently with your emotions. The good news is, knowing this enables you to root out negative or destructive thoughts or beliefs before they have more impact on whatever is going on above the surface. An opportunity for radical de-weeding of your inner landscape.

Thoughts create things. Negative imagination creates unwanted experiences whereas positive imagination enables a tectonic shift in outcomes.

From this perspective perhaps one can actually predict the future. It is based on where you are putting your thoughts and emotions today. A object set in motion doesn’t change direction unless acted upon by a different force. By changing your thoughts and how you feel (the quality of your presence) you change the outcome and hence also the future.

Click here to read more …

The paradox of purpose

My work with hands has changed radically in the last few months due to a very subtle shift in perspective.
This is the realisation that life purpose is not something to be chased, but rather something to be inhabited, or simply switched on, the way one turns up the dimmer knob of an internal light. Your life purpose is a feeling state not an action. A way to shine knowing that the source is within not without. A being, not a doing.

A goal is something quite different – a stick thrown ahead and achievable. Whereas life purpose is part of who you are. Something you need to be wagging rather than chasing.

If you are not sure what your purpose is, and how to wag it rather than chase it, your fingerprints can help you understand what governs your tail wagging more than anything else I’ve ever come across. You can get a free report on this here.
Here’s a video of dogs chasing their own tails. Click here to read more …

The alchemy of relationship

Isn’t it interesting how at one depth your partner might look like a beautiful mermaid or a friendly dolphin. Yet at another depth, under intense pressure, the identical person suddenly turns into a deep sea monster?
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sacred partnership, alchemy of relationship, fingerprints and mindfulness, mindfulness at your fingertips, lifeprints training, conscious collaboration, hand analysis applied to relationship, love is in your hands It’s a cosmic joke really – how we seem to attract and be attracted to the one person who can really push all our buttons. Why is this? And how can, instead of ending up in a totally dark place (inside the belly of the beast?), how can we play the game with love and support instead of getting eaten alive?
Last night Tomar Levine and I completed the final chapter of our new “mindfulness at your fingertips” course. The focus of the 9th call in this series was on sacred partnership. Seeing the game and embracing the collaboration.

What did we discuss?
We discussed the alchemy of relationship – and why we need it.
We also explored how your fingerprints show your trigger points and how knowing each other’s hidden drives helps one to create a safe haven for both to do the work required. This is the real beauty of relationship; being both the vehicle and the vessel for each other’s transformation. Not just one or the other.

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Some other key points we discussed:
That happiness is an inside job.
That thought is creative and emotions breathe life into our thoughts.
We can’t change another person but we can choose a different response. Or a different story to tell ourselves about whatever is going on.
How do you choose to react? As a victim or as a judge? Or as a compassionate witness?
Compassion is the key, particularly self compassion, and seeing through the painful stories we use to keep ourselves trapped in the underworld.
And then the miracle – as we change the stories we tell ourselves (and hence, how we feel) our partner mysteriously changes too.
Why is this?
Instead of trying to fix the mirror, as we transform so does what we see reflected back to us.

Conscious collaboration is something one can learn without knowing anything about Click here to read more …

Do you have “worry lions”?

A few nights ago I had a viviid dream of a huge lion lying on my chest, pinning me down with both paws. He was a lot like the Sphinx, overbearing but inactive. I tried to tell him he wasn’t actually real. That if I just knew how to focus properly he would dissolve into the illusion he really was. Yet he felt very real to me. I could feel his fur, his claws in my shoulders, his weight. I tried pushing him off and nearly had my hand bitten off. Then I tried a different tactic. Love. Staring into his eyes sending love and kindness. He simply stared back sternly, his eyes incredibly all knowing but merciless. They seemed to reach all the way back to infinity and beyond. What was he expressing? Impartiality? Impatience? Clearly he was growing restless. I was moments away from being eaten alive and there seemed to be not a damned thing I could do about it. Then, at the very last second, someone from afar darted him and he rolled off me lifelessly. I hated the idea that I was rescued by someone else instead of “conquering” the lion myself, singlehandedly. But then I realised, this is a dream and every character in it is just another part of myself. So which part of me took positive action? The archer?

And why am I telling you this dream?
I’ve written a couple of posts that will help you wrestle with your own lions. And see them for what they really are.

Here they are:
What’s eating you? (about lions and mindfulness)
Doing vs being (about life purpose and why you can’t have what you really want.)
Can we cool the planet by thinking less? (about mindfulness and results)
and this post: “Worry lions” (About horizontal lines on your hands, thumb and fingers)

Do you know that nearly half of the lines on your hand are “lions” not lines? :-)

Why do I say that?
These lions/lines indicate the self created beasts (the stories we tell ourselves) that hold us in their grip sometimes for an entire lifetime. Seeing them for what they are is the first step to freeing yourself from their grip.

So?
Think of me as just another part of you. The archer. These words reaching out to you through time and space to help you immobilise whatever lion currently has you by the throat.

Here’s a pic of someone who has learned how to manage his own lions through mindfulness.

Simply allowing them to be without breathing life into any of them.
Thought is creative. The thoughts you think today become the reality you live tomorrow. Most thoughts need to be let go of rather than be energized.

Here are a few pic’s of “Worry lions” on the upper thumb. (Traditionally called “worry lines”)
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The upper thumb is all about manifestation.
They indicate worrying about life circumstances and lack in general and non manifestation as a result.
How to resolve this? Click here to read more …

Doing vs being

Eeyore! Eeyore! This is going to be my new mantra every time I catch myself trying too hard
to “do” my life purpose.

What do I mean?

Have you noticed? The harder you try to grab onto your purpose the more elusive it gets?
Why can’t you just have what you really want?

It might astonish you to hear this but your life purpose is not actually “do-able” through traditional action plans.
Just as the donkey can’t reach the carrot by running faster because it’s attached to him (as he moves, it moves), so too with your life purpose.
Think of it as your cosmic carrot. It’s part of the mechanism that drives you.
The bait that motivates you to continue playing this wretched-blessed game called life.
Or as someone once said to me:
“You can’t change the program by running it.
You can’t change the program because you are the program.”

Here in lies the key to living your purpose:
“Life purpose is a consciousness to inhabit not an action to take” Richard Unger

You can’t have it because you already ARE it. It is not something to have or to do, it is something to be.
You can’t “do” being. That’s like trying to become more yin by applying more yang.

So how can you get the carrot?
(Humorous pic of donkey wanting carrot)

The first step needs to be a yin step not a yang one.
Being not doing.
Owning who you really are rather than focusing on the lack of who you really are. Click here to read more …

Recommended hand analysis book

I’ve just received Kay Packard’s new hand analysis book “Your Life is in your hands” in the post and I’m delighted. Click here to read more …

Life Purpose & Hand Analysis Classes 2015

Another year of Earth School classes with Richard Unger and Jena Griffiths starts soon.
In 2015 we will be exploring the Life Purposes in depth.
We’ll also be exploring Heart and the Spiritual Journey markers. These are line formations that indicate
how a person may be limiting or blocking themselves.

Heart and Spiritual Journey markers provisional schedule
February – Desire Pollution, Burden of Expectation, Selfishness Point
March – D Fork, Co-Dependency, The Ladder, Grand Gesture
April – Living In Disguise Markers: Clark Kent, Gina in Donna
Clothes, Sand Bagger, Nice Garden Syndrome, Short Upper Apollo, Water
Cooler Psychiatrist
May- Star of Tears (and the other Dark Side Markers: Saturn Ring, Neptune
Frown, Girdle Frown, Zindler Frown, Lover’s Frown, Abyss Line, Jacob’s
Ladder)
June – Mate Selection Indicators
July – Attack Lines
September – Dangling XXX’s, Diamonds and Boxes
October – Love at First Sight, Sisyphus, Pyramus-Thisbe
November – Jacob’s Ladder and Reverse Jacob’s Ladder, String of Lights

Click here to read more …