Eeyore! Eeyore! This is going to be my new mantra every time I catch myself trying too hard
to “do” my life purpose.
What do I mean?
Have you noticed? The harder you try to grab onto your purpose the more elusive it gets?
Why can’t you just have what you really want?
It might astonish you to hear this but your life purpose is not actually “do-able” through traditional action plans.
Just as the donkey can’t reach the carrot by running faster because it’s attached to him (as he moves, it moves), so too with your life purpose.
Think of it as your cosmic carrot. It’s part of the mechanism that drives you.
The bait that motivates you to continue playing this wretched-blessed game called life.
Or as someone once said to me:
“You can’t change the program by running it.
You can’t change the program because you are the program.”
Here in lies the key to living your purpose:
“Life purpose is a consciousness to inhabit not an action to take” Richard Unger
You can’t have it because you already ARE it. It is not something to have or to do, it is something to be.
You can’t “do” being. That’s like trying to become more yin by applying more yang.
So how can you get the carrot?
(Humorous pic of donkey wanting carrot)
The first step needs to be a yin step not a yang one.
Being not doing.
Owning who you really are rather than focusing on the lack of who you really are.
How does this work?
What you focus on expands. As Neale Donald Walsch says, “You will not have that for which you ask, nor can you have anything you want. This is because your very request is a statement of lack, and your saying you want a thing only works to produce that precise experience – wanting – in your reality.
The correct prayer is therefore never a prayer of supplication, but a prayer of gratitude.”
What to focus on instead?
Be the source. Imagine yourself shining/being the source/radiating whatever it is you seek rather than seeing it as something separate or outside of you.
“Practice not-doing and everything will fall into place.” – Lao Tzu
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.”- Lao Tzu
To dive more deeply into Life Purpose from this perspective here are some courses currently running in Earth School.
1. Mindfulness at your fingertips (in this breakthrough course we explore in depth the yin as well as the yang side of the equation. With me on each call I have New York Life Coach Tomar Levine also adding her wisdom.)
2. Each month I discuss a different life purpose with Richard Unger.
We started this series of calls by exploring the “The Doer” purpose/Successful manifestation- seems the timing to discuss this seeming paradox of manifestation couldn’t be more perfect.
2 thoughts on “Doing vs being”
Here’s a beautiful article on the same subject The Paradox of Non-doing written by John Greer. It was just emailed to me (synchronicity?)
It is on the All Things Healing Website along with numerous tools to help you with the “non doing” side of things including some of my energy management articles
Here’s a related thought from Wayne Dyer on this – 50 min in. Rather than doing, you are being done.
From Dyer I found this from Lao Tsu on “governing with non-doing”